What an Asshole

I have this friend who keeps on making fun of people. Wherever we go, he has to make a comment on people we do not even know. Sometimes they are funny, but other times I think he is an asshole. Lately he has been commenting on some of our friends. Our friends all know that he can be an asshole, but they still laugh at his jokes and comments. Whenever I see him, and he starts making the comments, I always tell him, “shut the fuck up!” I know he can hurt a lot of people with his comment, but he is still a good friend to me.

Last week, my friends came over to my house to play Texas Hold ‘em. One of my friends is a guitar player. He loves playing his guitar and whenever he comes over to my house, he picks up my guitar and strums it. That night, my asshole friend started picking on my friend who plays the guitar. My asshole friend started to say things about how my guitar playing friend always has to bring up guitar in all of our conversations and how he always has to play a song for us when ever we play Texas Hold ‘em. The guitar player started to get mad and started to accuse my asshole friend on how he is an in the closet homosexual. The poker game started to heat up with anger and my asshole friend said to the guitar player, “ I bet you love guitar so much you have a blowup doll in the shape of a guitar!” After the comment, the guitar player punched my asshole friend and they got into a fight. I broke it up and now I have to hang out with each of them separately.

Mundane and Selfish

There is nothing important to write about in this blog entry. This week has been nothing but midterms, papers and problems. I have been disconnected with the world, and I have been focusing solely on myself. I barely picked up my phone, answered any text, or commented on someone’s MySpace. I have been busy, but I do not feel fulfilled. People wanted to talk to me, but I did not listen. People wanted to ask me for favors, but I did not care. This week was just I in my own world. This was the first week, in along time where I focused on myself.

This blog sounds selfish, but I do not care. I just want this week to be over, so I can go back to whom I was the week before this week. I did not like myself this week, but I can change. Hopefully this mundane feeling will go away after tomorrow. I have nothing else left to write in this blog. I do not know if it is my selfish attitude that is giving me a writer’s block? Or, if it is the fact that I feel unfulfilled of this week. Midterms may be over for me, but I do not feel happy or relieved.

Appologize for What?

“Okay before we go any further, can I check those diplomas because I want to make sure that they’re not from some med school in the Philippines”? These are the words Susan Mayer, Teri Hatcher’s character, said on Desperate Housewives. These words caused a controversy amongst many Filipino’s, especially the ones that work in the medical field. After the airing of the episode where Teri Hatcher’s character said the so-called racial slur, the Philippine Government issued a statement demanding ABC to apologize for airing the Desperate Housewives episode.

Speaking as a Filipino-American, I believe what the Philippine Government and other individual Filipinos are doing about the situation as Bull Shit. My family and my Filipino friends keep on lecturing to me on how it was wrong for her to say that. I agree with them to an extent.

One thing that I do not agree on, is how many Filipino’s called what Teri Hatcher’s character said, a racial slur. What she said is not a racial slur. If people would listen to what Teri Hatcher’s character said, people would find out that she was identifying medical schools in a country not talking about the people of the country. Teri Hatcher’s character never said Filipino; she just had an elitist view on how medical schools in the United States are better than ones form a third world country. It was wrong for Teri Hatcher’s character to say what she said, but it is not a racial slur.

Another thing I do not agree on with how the Filipino people and Filipino Government are doing about this situation is demanding an apology from ABC. People cannot demand an apology since that contradicts the point of an apology. An apology should be what the offender gives to the one he or she offends out of guilt not force; demanding one is meaningless.

Hopefully this situation will blow over, but until then, I hope I will not be bothered with another petition ordering Teri Hatcher and ABC to apologize.

I Do

Growing up in a Catholic family, marriage was always defined, as something two people uniting in front of God. Marriage to me was always sacred, so I have always believed that I can only marry one person in my lifetime. While watching television, I have always seen shows where two people would go and marry each other with out thinking twice. I have always thought that this was the most random way of keeping a relationship with someone. I never felt that the people on television getting married feel the same way for each other. I felt that they just make a mockery of marriage.

As I entered my late teen years, my view on marriage changed. I started to believe in carpe dium. Marriage was a spontaneous activity that two people in love would do. I still believe that marriage is a sacred union, even in my late teen years. I wanted to find the right girl and marry her, but my definition on the right girl was loose.

I am now a Political Science major attending San Jose State University. In the past 4 weeks, I have interned in the family law courts in Santa Clara County. In the courts, my view changed again about marriage. People who married the wrong people would come in and try to get out of their marriage. I witnessed many cases where people’s love for each other was liquidated into a cash settlement. Piles of paper work would end up at our desk on divorces and child custody. Working in family law made me realized that marriage is sacred, and finding Mrs. Right will take time.